THINGS YOU CAN DO ON DAYS WHEN YOU DON'T WANT TO BE HERE

There are days when the weight of life is just too much to deal with.

These are the days when you're not sure how you're going to show up when you clearly can't. Days when you're so tired. In your bones. In your soul. In your mind. Just tired.

So much so that you wish everything would just disappear. You want the overthinking to stop. You want the chatter in your head to stop. You just don't want to be here. You just want to run and hide. You want to feel numb.

If today is one of those days, I want you to know that this post is for you.

This is not a list of things to fix you. You're not broken.

This is not about thinking positively and pretending that everything is okay when it's clearly not. You are not.

It's about trying to survive today. About giving yourself the gentlest kind of care, even if you feel like you're unraveling.

I see you. I've been you. I've also lost someone very close to my heart who struggled.

You don't have to be strong every second. But you can take one tiny step. And then maybe one more.

And if all you can do today is read these words, then that's enough.

Things You Need To Remember on Days When You Don't Want to be Here

Just Let Yourself Feel It

You don't have to pretend that everything is okay. Cry if you have to. Scream. Stare at the ceiling. Sit with the numbness if you have to. Just let your feelings exist. You don't have to hide them, bottle them up, be embarrassed by them, or even justify them.

Allowing yourself to feel all your emotions doesn't mean you're weak. It means you're human.

You're allowed to feel broken without being broken forever.

So whatever you're feeling, feel it in its entirety. It's allowed.

Remind Yourself That This Moment Isn't Forever

I know it feels like this will never end. That the darkness has taken over everything.

But feelings are not facts, and this pain, as real and deep as it is, is not permanent.

You have made it through other hard days. You have survived heartbreak, loss, disappointment, and fear. You can survive this, too. And there is still room for joy. Still space for healing. Still light, waiting for you.

Promise Yourself One More Tomorrow

Not forever. Not next week. Just tomorrow. Just one more sunrise.

Sometimes that small promise we make is the thread that keeps us here. You don't have to try to figure everything out. You don't have to fix your whole life or make any big decisions.

Just survive today. Breathe deeply. Rest. Survive.

If all you can do is whisper, I'll try again tomorrow. That's more than enough.

Reach Out To Someone In Any Way You Can

I beg you.

Please reach out to someone. You don't ever have to go into any detail or explain everything. Sending them a simple "I'm struggling today" text is enough.

Don't you ever dare think that you're being a burden because you're not. That someone is probably waiting for you to let them in. That someone so desperately wants to help you get through your hard days, even if they have no idea how to. They care for you more than you think you know.

And if you don't have anyone you can trust enough, please, please know that there are helplines and support groups who care deeply.

You are not a burden. You deserve support.

Find One Tiny Spark

It doesn't have to be anything big.

It can be anything from watching your favorite movie from when you were little. Or maybe it's cuddling with your pet. Maybe it's just sitting still, or even looking out the window up at the sky. Maybe even making a cup of tea the way your grandma used to. For me, reading quotes or poems brings me some peace, and sometimes it ignites the fire in me to fight back.

Do something small that reminds you that there's still some beauty and hope in this world, and let that be your spark for today.

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Look at Who You've Been Before

You've been through hard times before.

Think about that version of you that had know idea how she was going to make it through it. But she did. She's still here. She may be tired, but she's still here. Still fighting.

Maybe right this moment, this fight looks more like a surrender, but there is still strength in you. Remind yourself of how far you've come, and that this too, will pass.

Do Nothing If That’s All You Can Do

Some days, the most courageous thing is simply staying alive. If all you did today was breathe, that’s enough.

You don’t have to do everything. Or anything.

You don’t have to clean, respond, fix, smile, explain, or “be okay.”

You don’t need to be productive. You don’t need to “make the most of the day.”

Today, you get to rest. You get to breathe. That is enough.

There is no shame in stepping back. You’re not failing—you’re healing. You just need to make it through.

Remind Yourself This Isn't the End

I know how loud the darkness can be. I know how it convinces you that this is permanent.

That it won’t ever get better. But those voices in your head? They lie.

You’ve felt joy before. Peace. Laughter. And love. Even if it was long ago, you've felt them all. And you can feel all that again. And I'll say it again, this pain, as real and deep as it is, it is not permanent.

This isn’t the end of your story. It's just a really hard chapter.

Just know that

If today feels like too much, take it hour by hour. Or minute by minute. Rest when you can. Cry if you need to. Call someone. Ask for help. There is no shame in needing help. Ever.

You’re not broken.

You’re not weak.

You’re just tired.

And that makes sense, because you've been carrying so much for so long.

You are doing your best, and that is more than enough.

On the days you don’t want to be here, I hope you remember this,

You matter. You are loved. And this world is better with you in it.

Please, please hold on.

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This post is dedicated to my brother, who couldn’t find his way out of the darkness. He was the kindest and most selfless person I have ever known. It was a privilege to have had him in my life, and I am so truly blessed that he played a big part in my son's life, too. He was so much to so many people and was deeply loved.

But the weight he carried was too much.

I carry his memory with me every day. And I also carry guilt with me every day.

And I write this for him, and for you, in the hope that these words might help someone stay a little longer.

If you're reading this and hurting, please know that you are not alone. You are not invisible. And your pain is not something to bear in silence.

Please stay.

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