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WHAT EVERY MOM SHOULD KNOW ABOUT PUBERTY IN BOYS
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I don't know. This stage feels different.
No one really sits you down and explains this part. Especially when you're raising a son on your own.
You just....find yourself in it.
One day he's still soft in that little boy way. Then slowly, things start shifting. Not all at once. Just bits and pieces. And you notice them at random times.
And if you're doing this on your own, it can feel lonely.
So a lot of it feels like....you're hoping you're doing okay.
I used to catch myself watching my son. Just noticing. The way he moves. The way he answers me now. The way he doesn't always look at me when we talk.
And I've had to remind myself that this is part of puberty in boys.
The age that puberty in boys start
It's usually between 9 and 14.
That range alone can mess with your head. Because if your son is earlier than that, you worry. If he's later, you worry too.
You start looking at other boys without meaning to. Comparing.
But boys don't all start at the same time. Some change early. Some stay small and boyish longer. Like mine did.
But then, when it's time, suddenly everything hits at once.
There's no clear starting point either. No big moment. It's already happening by the time you realize what's really going on.
And even when it starts. It doesn't move neatly. It's uneven. Fast in some ways. Slow in others.
The early signs you notice
For me it was the smell first. The muskiness was off the charts....sheesh! Especially since we're living in the warm climate that we are. Like...okay. We need deodorant now. Not next month. Now. And maybe some extra showers!
Then I started noticing how his clothes sat on him. His legs looked longer. His face changing a bit. Not fully, just enough to make me notice.
His voice too. Not deep. Just....unpredictable. It cracks at random times. And he notices. We'll both look at each other and smile. Both knowing that change is happening. I do miss his 'little boy' voice.
Hair starts showing up. Nothing dramatic. Just another reminder that things are changing whether you're ready or not.
And then there's the privacy. The need for it. Doors closing more. Taking longer in the bathroom. Wanting space.
The wanting space and privacy took me a bit longer to adjust to. Because you feel it. You feel a distance creeping in. The pulling away. Even if it's small.
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The changes in their behavior
This is the part that catches you off guard.
Some days he's completely normal. Talking. Laughing. Asking for snacks like nothing changed.
Other days....it's quiet. You ask something simple and get "nothing" or a "fine". And you stand there thinking, okay....what's going on.
It's not constant. That's what makes it confusing. It comes and goes.
He wants more independence too. Wants to do things his own way. Even when he's clearly still figuring things out.
And then there are moments where you can tell he's unsure. He won't say it. But you can feel it.
It's a strange mix. Still a boy. Not really a child anymore either.
How You Can Support Him Through These Changes
The most important thing you can do is to stay present. Not in a hovering kind of way. Just...around.
You can obviously have a talk with him about what to expect around puberty. It might be awkward not just for you, but for him to. And he might just want to run and hide. But you still say small things here and there. "Hey, if you notice changes in your body, it's normal." That's it. You don't push. Unless he starts asking questions. And you don't try to force a conversation when he's not ready.
And then there's the everyday stuff.
You buy deodorant and leave it in his room. You remind him to shower. Again and again.
You notice when his clothes don't fit and quietly replace them. No big speeches. Just doing what needs to be done.
Emotionally, you have to try and stay steady.
Some days he's moody. Some days you're tired. Sometimes it clashes. But when you can, try not to react straight away.
Because it's not always about you. And when he does talk to you, even a little here and there, try to just...listen. You don't have to fix anything. Don't turn it into something bigger. Just listen.
If there's something you don't know anything about or don't know how to explain, don't pretend to know. It's either you try to figure it out. Or find someone who can help him understand it better.
The Things He Might Be Thinking
He won't always ask. But you'll know it's there.
Wondering if the changes that are happening to him, physically and emotionally, even mentally is normal. If he's behind. If he's ahead. If something is wrong. He'll secretly compare himself to his friends without actually saying it out loud.
But whenever my son does say something from his observation of other people, I'll casually say, "Everyone grows differently". Or "Nothing about this is strange". Or "It's just part of growing up".
And I'll just leave it that.
Mind you that since they also have access to the internet, they'll also do their own digging. If you're lucky, they'll come to you and share what they found out.
Puberty in boys doesn't feel like one big change that happens overnight. Though it can feel like it.
It's small changes. Small moments that stack on top of each other.
A different tone in his voice. A closed door. A change in attitude. A short answer. A random question that comes out of nowhere.
Some days feel normal. Some feel a bit off.
You won't always know if you're handling it the right way. But you're there. You're present. You're paying attention. You're trying.
And that counts, more than you realize.
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